{"id":913,"date":"2022-02-09T13:45:49","date_gmt":"2022-02-09T12:45:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/finetanker.wordpress.com\/?p=913"},"modified":"2022-03-14T11:27:00","modified_gmt":"2022-03-14T11:27:00","slug":"om-maends-hojde-i-datinglivet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/finetanker.dk\/index.php\/2022\/02\/09\/om-maends-hojde-i-datinglivet\/","title":{"rendered":"Tanker om m\u00e6nds h\u00f8jde i datinglivet"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Jeg har kastet mig over et meget sp\u00e6ndende emne, som startede meget simplet og nu er vokset og har udfoldet sig meget mere end jeg havde troet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">(P\u00e5 min podcasts instagram <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/l.facebook.com\/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fjosefineogalle%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR2CzFNNHYLV06IFD_knq2qg4k1miSh3R19-o5nrdBot6BCMEw1sQSyT57M&amp;h=AT2WyfT1x2oOvD7HTc8in6GFiNnjaz04MC1AtpQuqNFmRXZSbcAjSJ7_EQu3fQzdOl6eWLCsAbQrK13KmE11VlMKPxUmX7T7E0srht5LT7F9Owimfj9Z2Q_fRmRqbXAaiw&amp;__tn__=-UK-R&amp;c[0]=AT0ghqDUScw6-EhDPKmDIAcw5ehZ8g3IPKSNnklhbyOuEY815zhSuzi3Ji3fWic_ON5rHzCie72jfq8iYbgneGJ8NnDFDFwp062TTP26HzJ6MLN0o3vIML5gRblwCyTiNtQljvP2VnjCGhzppixykE3WQeeZ8YeWmw7848WEGw\" target=\"_blank\">https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/josefineogalle\/<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Jeg startede simpelthen med at sp\u00f8rge om kvinder gik op i m\u00e6nds h\u00f8jde.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Svarene var mest ensidige, katogoriske og med den st\u00f8rste selvf\u00f8lgelighed: &#8220;Han skal v\u00e6re h\u00f8jere end mig.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mhhh, hmmm, ikke overraskende, men n\u00e5r jeg t\u00e6nker mere over det, er det alligevel ret vildt. Vi pr\u00e6diker nej tak til body shaming, vi pr\u00e6diker ligev\u00e6rd, vi pr\u00e6diker diversitet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Og alligevel er vi s\u00e5 indfedtet i tanken om, at m\u00e6nd skal v\u00e6re h\u00f8je og st\u00e6rke, s\u00e5 kvinderne kan v\u00e6re sm\u00e5 og fine. F\u00f8lge sig trygge og blive passet p\u00e5 i m\u00e6ndenes st\u00e6rke arme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vi har alle vores personlige pr\u00e6ferencer. Det er naturligt og forst\u00e5eligt, men hvorn\u00e5r g\u00e5r det fra et sp\u00f8rgsm\u00e5l om smag til diskrimination?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M\u00e5 vi afvise kvinden med det korte h\u00e5r, fordi hun ikke er feminin nok?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M\u00e5 vi afvise manden, fordi hans hud er for m\u00f8rk?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M\u00e5 vi afvise kvinden, der er for tyk?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Og manden der er for lav?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reelt set m\u00e5 vi jo afvise alle dem, vi ikke er interesserede i, men er det ok at kalde en gruppe af m\u00e6nd under 170 for &#8220;ikke nok maskuline&#8221;?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hvordan kan vi v\u00e6re blevet S\u00c5 overbeviste om at maskulinitet ligger i h\u00f8jden? Og handler det oftest om kvinders eget mindrev\u00e6rd, der g\u00f8r, at de tror at de SKAL f\u00f8le sig sm\u00e5, lette og fine? Og hvor er vi s\u00e5 i 2022, hvis kvinders kamp p\u00e5 datingmarkedet handler om at f\u00f8le sig petite?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/_u\/josefineogalle?fbclid=IwAR1LB0cwXkR3-eIM9YjlPQR-6VhFgNLHOrbVvz8rwNffn_1PBVxD_aX-iU0\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Del dine tanker her:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-captioned data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Cap-Hcosdqh\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"><div style=\"padding:16px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Cap-Hcosdqh\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; 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font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Cap-Hcosdqh\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Et opslag delt af Josefine og alle hendes m\u00e6nd (@josefineogalle)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jeg har kastet mig over et meget sp\u00e6ndende emne, som startede meget simplet og nu er vokset og har udfoldet &hellip; <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/finetanker.dk\/index.php\/2022\/02\/09\/om-maends-hojde-i-datinglivet\/\">More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-913","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating",""],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":30,"url":"https:\/\/finetanker.dk\/index.php\/2013\/01\/03\/tanker-om-overflod-og-forbrug\/","url_meta":{"origin":913,"position":0},"title":"Tanker om overflod og forbrug","date":"januar 3, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"Jeg er blevet inspireret! 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